如果你足夠愛(ài)她

1、RecentlymyfriendJohnlosthiswifeJa.Feightyearsshefoughtagainstcancerbutintheendhersicknesshadthelastwd.OnedayJohntookoutafoldedpieceofpaperfromhiswallet.Hehadfounditsohetoldmewhenhetidiedupsomedrawersathome.Itwasasmalllov

2、eletterJahadwritten.Thenotecouldlooklikeaschoolgirlsscrawlsaboutherdreamguy.AllthatwasmissingwasadrawingofaheartwiththenamesJohnJawritteninit.Butthesmallletterwaswrittenbyawomanwhohadhadsevenchildrenawomanwhofoughtfherli

3、fewhoprobablyonlyhadafewmonthslefttolive.Itwasabeautifulrecipefhowtokeepamarriagetogether.Jasdeionofherhusbbeginsthus:“Lovedme.Tookcareofme.Wriedaboutme.”JohnshowedgreatconsiderationfJa.Sometimeshecamehomeintheeveningtof

4、indherinthedleofoneofthosedepressionscancerpatientssooftenget.Innotimehegotherintothecardrovehertoherfaviterestaurant.“HelpedmewhenIwasill”thenextlinereads.PerhapsJawrotethiswhilethecancerwasinoneofthehriblewonderfullull

5、s.Whereeverythingis—almost—asitusedtobebefethesicknessbrokeoutwhereitdoesnthurttohopethateverythingisovermaybefever.“Fgavemealot.”“Stoodbymyside.”apieceofgoodadvicefeveryonewholooksongivingconstructivecriticismasakindofs

6、acredduty:“Alwayspraising.”“MadesureIhadeverythingIneeded”shegoesontowrite.Afterthatshehasturnedoverthepaperadded:“Warmth.Humour.Kindness.Thoughtfulness.”thenshewritesaboutthehusbshehaslivedwithlovedthemostofherlife:“Alw

7、aystherefmewhenIneededyou.”Thelastwdsshewrotesumupalltheothers:“Goodfriend.”IstbesideJohnnowcannotpretendtoknowhowitfeelstolosesomeonewhoisasclosetomeasJawasto如果你足夠愛(ài)她如果你足夠愛(ài)她最近，我的朋友約翰失去了他的妻子珍妮特。珍妮特與癌癥抗?fàn)幜税四?，最終還是讓病魔奪走了生命。一天

8、，約翰從他的錢(qián)夾里拿出一張折疊著的紙。他告訴我，他是在家里收拾一些抽屜時(shí)發(fā)現(xiàn)這張紙的。它是珍妮特寫(xiě)的一封短小的情書(shū)。這紙條看上去有點(diǎn)像是一個(gè)女學(xué)生信手寫(xiě)寫(xiě)她的夢(mèng)中情人，只是沒(méi)有畫(huà)一顆寫(xiě)著約翰和珍妮特名字的紅心罷了。但這短短的情書(shū)卻是一個(gè)有著七個(gè)孩子的女人寫(xiě)的；這個(gè)女人在為她的生命而戰(zhàn)斗，恐怕沒(méi)有幾個(gè)月就要離開(kāi)人世了。這封情書(shū)道出了讓婚姻長(zhǎng)久的美麗秘訣。珍妮特是這樣開(kāi)始描述她的丈夫的：“愛(ài)我。照顧我。為我擔(dān)憂。”約翰對(duì)珍妮特體貼入微。有時(shí)

9、他傍晚回到家時(shí)發(fā)現(xiàn)珍妮特正陷入癌癥患者經(jīng)常遭受的情緒低谷，他會(huì)馬上開(kāi)車帶她去她極為喜歡的餐館吃飯。情書(shū)下一行是：“在我生病期間幫助我?！币苍S珍妮特寫(xiě)下這句話時(shí)正逢癌癥處于那種既可怕又美妙的暫時(shí)平穩(wěn)期。這期間，病痛沒(méi)有爆發(fā)，一切幾乎如從前一般；這時(shí)希望一切都過(guò)去了，也許永遠(yuǎn)地過(guò)去了，又有何妨？！“時(shí)常體諒我。”“支持我?！薄翱偸琴潛P(yáng)我?！睂?duì)于任何一個(gè)視給予建設(shè)性的批評(píng)為某種神圣責(zé)任的人來(lái)說(shuō)，這真是不錯(cuò)的忠告?！按_保我擁有需要的每樣?xùn)|西，”

10、她接著寫(xiě)道。接下來(lái)，她還翻過(guò)紙?jiān)诒趁胬^續(xù)寫(xiě)：“熱情、幽默、仁慈、周到?！敝螅@樣描寫(xiě)她在生命的大部分時(shí)光里與之一起生活并深深愛(ài)戀的丈夫：“當(dāng)我需要你時(shí)，你總是在我身旁?！弊詈髢蓚€(gè)字總結(jié)了她所寫(xiě)的全部：“好友?！県im.Ineedtohearwhathehastosay.“John”Iask.“Howdoyousticktogetherwithsomeonethrough38years—nottomentionthesicknessH

11、owdoIknowifIcanbeartostbymywifessideifshebecomessickoneday”“Youcan”hesaysquietly.“Ifyouloveherenoughyoucan.”現(xiàn)在我站在約翰身邊，無(wú)法裝作我知道失去某個(gè)和我很親近的人，像約翰失去珍妮特那樣親近的人，是什么滋味。我要聽(tīng)聽(tīng)他會(huì)說(shuō)些什么。“約翰，”我問(wèn)道，“你怎么能與某個(gè)人廝守38年更不用說(shuō)還有病魔的糾纏？我怎么能知道如果我的妻子哪天病了